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Title: Femme Your Hubby - Installment #4
Author: A. K. Remenko
Preface: I have been privileged to learn a few things by being
permitted to observe the work of some very accomplished
individuals. For what it's worth, I'll share what I've learned or
at least THINK I have learned. A FAQ section is being prepared.
Questions should be e-mailed to [email protected]. Flames
and the like will be ignored and cheerfully deleted. Not for
dissemination to minors under any circumstance(s).
Part II. (Cont.)
C. Right drift essentials
The essence of the process, once established, becomes controlling
the rate (R) of right drift, in one manner or another. One either
works to maximize it or minimize it, it cannot be totally
eliminated. A very small value of R is essentially the same as a
zero, so that's good enough on the minimization side. R
occasionally hews to predictable mathematical parameters but it
can also make spurious and totally unpredictable changes; at least
to this point some changes appear unpredictable and/or irrational.
Portions of that which follow repeat information in Part I and are
repeated here to provide the reader all the appropriate
information in one location (the author having a virtual mania for
thoroughness):
1. Low rates (on the order or 1% or 2%) of R tend to be very
"sticky", i.e. hard to increase. So gurls with low D(0) and low R
are going to be very tough to get into dating mode with men. It's
been done, but it isn't easy and it takes a fair amount of time.
Good news for some wives, bad news for others.
2. Since it's an annual rate, the effect compounds over time.
For example assume a gurl with D(0) of .15 and R of .02 or 2%:
Year one drift amount (r) = .15 x .02 = .003
D(1) is then = .15 + .003 = .153
Year two drift = .153 x .02 = .00306
D(2) is then = .153 + .00306 = .15606
It can therefore be readily seen why the EFFECT of low rates is
sticky as well (i.e. the value of the increase in r which is the
AMOUNT of drift, R being the rate of drift). One's gurl will reach
her A point, it's just that when she hits her A threshold, the
world will be in the next ice age. Wives who don't want hubby
sexually active as gurl in such cases have little to fear, or to
do.
This also explains why HIGH rates of R have a "runaway" tendency;
it's like putting money in a savings account that pays 50%
interest. R's can be reduced but getting to high values of R, in
order to control them, IN SUFFICIENT TIME is a serious problem. By
the time most wives are aware of their existence they've already
"done their job" and the gurl has done more head bobbing than the
rear window ornament of a "low-rider". R decreases sharply when
the A point is reached; but by then it's too late, way, way too
late.
3. R doesn't stop working just because a gurl becomes an
inactive TGurl (e.g. purges because she's getting married and is
"never going to do this again" and puts her femme persona "on the
shelf"). R just sits there grinding inexorably away although it
stays nominally constant.
Therefore a gurl who is inactive with very low values and then
resumes activity (even after decades) will display no discernable
change. It's there, it's just too small to detect. Gurls with
large values of R who stop for say five years, maybe get divorced
and are "free" again quickly make up for lost time. (Aka the
"Whoopee effect"; residents in close proximity to "whoopee gurls"
report a curious need to have ball type trailer hitches
re-chromed, though this may be coincidental. Vehicles with such
devices should be garaged temporarily just to be on the safe
side.)
4. R seems to increase somewhat for gurls who become truly
active only in later years. (E.g. gurls who experimented only in
early or mid adolescence, stop, reach adulthood, usually get
married early, and desist from any activity for a long time OR
gurls who start "cold" in their late 30's and beyond.) That is the
rate just doesn't only "grind", it increases. Criteria for
quantifying such increases (magnitude) have been most elusive.
5. Sexual exposure to men when in femme mode can force almost
frightening changes in R. Wives who want to see their gurl "do" a
man "just once" had better think again. (!!!) The wife who uses
conditioned response to get her gurl to take cock (e.g. blowjob)
the first time ARTIFICIALLY drives her gurl to the A point in one
jump after which the gurl will "snap back" to a larger offset D
(new) probably still short of the A point, BUT with a startling
effect on R. Even without further exposure R will grind away but
now at a MUCH higher rate. Multiples of 2 through 10 are not
unusual but those as high as even 20 or 30 have been observed.
(One TGurl in particular, whom the author knew personally, went
from "100% heterosexual" to "giving it up" at virtually every
opportunity in a matter of weeks.)
Also worthy of note here is the fact that this multiple seems to
increase with age and not just linearly; geometric expansion (!!!)
has been observed. Therefore if a wife femmes say a
forty-something (or older) hubby and has her gurl start taking
cock regularly (and regularly doesn't mean necessarily mean
frequently, just at regular intervals, e.g. monthly or
semi-monthly) she's going to have a "cock hound" TGurl on her
hands post haste. (The author is reminded of the old potato chip
commercial, "Bet you can't eat just one!") This of course makes
cuckolding hubby the so-called "walk in the park."
Further, the gurl is going to want to femme more often as a
result. The two (sex and femming) are mutually reinforcing. Wives
who desire to stop the resulting "do loop" should consider
somewhat less formidable tasks, raising the Titanic for example.
6. Getting the gurl to her A point (sexually serving men as a
femme) can be done by allowing R to work unaided or influencing R
to a higher rate or through conditioned response. The latter is
the only viable option for gurls with low D(0) and low R and even
a normal A point. Clearly gurls with an unusually high positive A
value and low D(0) and minimal R require a near Herculean effort.
Since she is so far from her A point, getting her anywhere near a
man without SIGNIFICANT preparation is not recommended (read
"highly discouraged").
If proper preparation is NOT done, a phenomenon called "spitting
the cock" is likely (from the usual case wherein the gurl is
"persuaded" to try giving her first blowjob, starts and the stops
because she is too far from her A point, even in femme mode, to be
able to psychologically accept the situation). This phenomenon,
for the wife who wants her gurl bitched, is a disaster of major
proportions. If successful in rejecting the act, the subject has
wrested any semblance of control away from the wife. If one
recalls the very first paragraph of Part I, regaining control is
extremely challenging.
Husbands who have done this have for example been known to discard
all their femme things at the first available opportunity. They
also typically successfully resist all further attempts to
recommence the process (at ANY stage) no matter how skillfully
managed. This even to the point of refusing to DISCUSS anything
that transpired at any time during the process even if they liked
any portion of it. (!!!) Wives who allow this to happen and who
write the FAQ mailbox requesting advice on recommended remedial
action will receive little sympathy from this quarter.
(Important note: The discarding of femme things referred to in the
paragraph above is NOT the same as the classic "purge" behavior
that afflicts many gurls, sometimes repeatedly. This is rather
fairly common behavior with existing TGurls, "self-starters" if
one will. They temporarily reflect internally what they perceive
as societies unwillingness to accept them and determine to cease
any further such activity. Publishers of dictionaries would be
well advised to use "TGurl purge" as an optional definition of
"futile" or "pointless". The net effect is that classic purges
simply provide the gurl with the opportunity to acquire an entire
new inventory of everything. The new inventory is typically larger
in size than the one discarded in all respects. Wives of existing
gurls who detect impending NORMAL purge action should offer to
discard the items for the gurl and then store them for later,
probably near-term, retrieval. Gurls have been known to buy their
own things back from resale shops. This will greatly displease
operators of second-hand shops, Goodwill and etc. for which TGurl
purges are a significant source of resale product. Bitched gurls
very rarely purge; if one's gurl has been bitched and purges, it's
a sure sign of big trouble.)
For gurls with the low D(0), low R and high positive A the ONLY
(known to this point at least) sign that she is even a candidate
for bitching is the ability to orgasm solely from Tpussy (anal)
penetration. This is usually accomplished first through the use of
"toys" with the wife only later using a strap-on and therefore
assuming a "surrogate male" role. This must be followed by a
lengthy conditioning period wherein the wife assumes an
increasingly dominant masculine role that the TGurl eventually
acknowledges overtly (e.g. Calling the wife "sir" and the like.
Giving the strap-on appliance a male oriented name like "Mr.
Wiggly" or "Mr. Fun" is solid technique). A positive sign here is
the subject's willingness to take the strap-on orally as if the
wife were a male. The wife should refer to such activity as a
"blowjob" or "head" and etc. Should the subject ask the wife,
referring to the wife in the male context (e.g. "sir, may I give
you a blowjob?"), for permission to do this, the wife should be
well pleased.
Even given these preconditions it may be an "iffy" proposition.
The wife is cautioned that if she presses too hard she risks
losing all. If unwilling to run that risk she may have to content
herself with the degree of feminization already attained as the
only reasonably achievable goal and "call it a game." In effect,
one does not even bother with R but works directly on D to drive
it to A permanently. (See also the section on "Bitching" below)
This is because EXTREMELY low R's (e.g. less that 1%) are just too
darn hard (impossible?) to increase.
7. Those, for whom increasing R is desirable, already learned a
few specific techniques in Part I. in the discussion of getting
her out. In general the wife must do everything she can to create
the impression that she views favorably anything connected with
right drift. She must be very consistent with this. Examples would
include commenting favorably on her gurl's appearance relative to
men's appreciation thereof, speaking favorably of other gurls that
both parties know that date men, comments that the thought must be
exciting and how exciting the wife finds it and etc.
The astute wife will not overdo it of course but simply take
advantage of opportunities presented. Purchase of gifts for the
gurl should be such that they also enhance this posture. One wife
went so far (when she thought the time right) as to purchase a new
purse for her gurl and place several packages of condoms in it as
a sort of "green light" signal to her gurl. The list is infinitely
long but with a little mental preparation the wife should have no
difficulty in dealing with any items that surface, even
unexpectedly.
For those seeking to hold R to current levels or to reduce it the
opposite tack from that presented above should be taken.
D. Benefits
The benefits of femming one's husband, are numerous. Many are
overlooked initially because wives focus on correcting the many
faults (no need providing for the singular form!) of the typical
husband that the wife finds most egregious. The list below is not
presumed to be comprehensive. However it may contain some things
of interest to wives who are as yet undecided as to whether or not
to commence the process. Experienced readers who have already
finished their gurls are encouraged to suggest additions to the
list via e-mail. In so doing they will be providing valuable
assistance in the decision making process to the undecided portion
of readership:
1. More time with the husband or
2. Less time with the husband (the wife's preference)
3. Less time with the in-laws (although if the father-in-law was
femmed by the mother-in-law the two women will have much in
common. Such pairs of women have been known to uproariously
entertain one another other for hours on end with humorous
anecdotes. Experienced mothers-in-law will be quick to spot what's
going on and usually offer assistance. Experienced mothers on the
other hand have undoubtedly properly educated their daughters by
example and will look on the whole effort with unabashed pride.)
4. Cleaner (especially bath), quieter residence
5. Reduction of foolish expenditures, e.g. sports equipment,
sporting events, club memberships, housekeeping services, bar
tabs, and etc. (E.g. if one will imagine the hunting trip, ugh,
where hubby unpacks his gear at the hunting cabin and hangs up his
pinky baby-doll nightie on the wall below the ever present
mounted, antlered animal head. The hubby has a better chance of
returning home draped over the vehicle fender than some poor,
defenseless herbivore does.)
6. Control of the television ("telly" in UK parlance) remote
(the author successfully resisting again the temptation to use the
"TV" acronym)
7. Restful sleep
8. MUCH less concern about the husband philandering with other
women (Aka the "fidelity factor")
9. Heightened stature for the wife in the opinion of her female
acquaintances
10. Punctual dinner hour
11. Less sexual activity with the husband
12. Improved sex life (12. may duplicate 11.)
13. Exciting new male companionship (13. may duplicate 11. and
12.)
14. Exciting new female companionship (14. renders 11. through
13. extraneous)
15. Cleaner automobile(s) (Note: getting the gurl to wash the
auto(s) outdoors wearing a bikini earns the wife the "expert"
badge)
16. Help carrying packages while shopping
17. Lower grocery expenditures
18. Less cooking and sewing (for the wife)
19. Enhancing the wife's self-confidence and perceived level of
authority vis-?-vis men in general (Note: This is VERY useful for
"career wives" who are forced to deal with men in the workplace.
Experienced wives have in fact spotted TGurls in the work place
when all others have not. One can only imagine the power conferred
if the experienced wife's immediate superior is male and a TGurl,
oh happy day. The reader will please resist the temptation to
salivate.)
20. Increased economies of scale in the purchase of feminine
toiletries and etc. (e.g. the "two-for-one" or
"buy-one-get-another-free" sale)
E. Notes on timing
Femming should be commenced as soon as possible, the phrase "no
time like the present", coming to mind. This extends particularly
to the subjects age. Young husbands femmed early on are prettier
(wives should take a great deal of pride in their gurl's
appearance and see also "Hormones" below), clothing is easier to
fit and the wife has a suitable companion for a larger portion of
the time she is married, than if she waits (early twenties being
the best time). Further, many husbands acquire distasteful habits
over a period of years and femming preempts the vast majority of
these. "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure" or so
they say.
The husband is likely to more pliable, perhaps even obsequious
during the first years (two to three at most) of marriage. This
happy condition has a relatively short duration and not beginning
the process early on only means more work (perhaps much more) for
the wife later. (Early commencement also takes things like bowling
leagues, golf leagues, softball team participation and other such
nonsense out of the picture before they have a chance to become
habits. Note though that competitive swimming provides an
excellent rationale for thorough depilation.)
With the abundance of information available via the Internet, the
large number of TGurls already extant has reduced the barriers for
younger and especially already highly predisposed subjects. One
may find web service clubs or groups focused on college cross-
dressing and the like. (As an aside, one can find college TGurls'
profiles wherein the word is spelled "collage"; so much for the
mental acuity of those potential subjects! Remember wives, one is
not interested in a "heavy thinker" when one wants a TGurl.)
Women who as yet do not have a spouse or SO can gain valuable
experience assisting and encouraging any younger gurls, college
attendees or not. In particular these women can develop an
intuitive sense for which males are highly predisposed. This will
come in handy when the woman goes about the process of evaluating
suitable candidates for marriage. TGurls are far easier to marry
than to develop, a fact that cannot be stressed too much. It is a
fact to which wives who have married TGurls unknowingly (only
discovering it later) will heartily attest. Even if a woman were
not to marry a younger gurl she has assisted, she has provided a
valuable service to any other woman who deems the subject suitable
marriage material. Remember ladies; you're all in this together.
Any discussion of timing should also include the subject's
psychological status. Periods of lowered resistance are obviously
an especially good time to start. In particular husbands who have
experienced loss of employment (involuntary termination being
preferred to the euphemistic "down-sizing") make extremely good
candidates. Lowered male self-image (aka the "breadwinner
effect"), unoccupied time, elevation of the working wife's
perceived authority status as economic head-of household, reduced
concern over perceived changes of appearance on the part of the
subject and other items all combine to reduce the subjects level
of resistance, if there is any.
Wife "Sally" used just such an opportunity, immediately upon her
gurl's cessation of employment, to send her gurl (then only
"potential" TGurl, Leisia) shopping for Sally's lingerie. In this
case the activity was not a trigger but acclimated the subject to
shopping for women's clothing. When Leisia was later called on to
do her own shopping any initial anxiousness about browsing in
women's stores and/or departments was long gone AND Leisia was
already an informed and capable shopper. (!!!)
Hubbies with time on their hands can learn to cook, sew, do
laundry and etc. Acquisition of such skills not only heightens the
subject's perceived femme self image, they make life far more
pleasant for the wife.
Economic control, however acquired by the wife, can be put to
extraordinarily good use. Wife Amanda sent her gurl forth with
limited cash on the gurl's Saturday "nights out" thereby
INCREASING the likelihood (one could say "certainty") that her
gurl would allow men to purchase drinks for her. The gurl thus
became acclimated to male companionship over time, adjusted
psychologically to the female role vis-?-vis men, was given
appropriate other conditioning steps by Amanda and was quite
readily bitched when the time came. Another wife with a recently
unemployed candidate had her husband grow her hair longer as
frequent trips the barbershop weren't "in the budget."
Yet another took her gurl along to the wife's salon for hair care.
The wife explained that the proprietress was a good friend, was
aware the husband was unemployed and would grant a price
concession for services performed for the husband because the wife
was a good customer. (The wife paid full price "on the sly" along
with a generous gratuity.) The beauty operator was thus given the
opportunity, slowly over a period of time, to create an
attractive, flattering hairstyle for the subject. The subject was
gently and gradually acclimated to the salon environment and the
wife gained a valuable control element. While the reader may
observe this actually cost the wife more money initially, the
reader should also note that the purchase of a wig was never
required! (As an aside the TGurl learned to set her own hair and
became quite adept. She frequently did the wife's!)
The prime candidate is therefore young, of reasonably modest
stature, recently married, unemployed and not overtly aggressive
in deportment. Also, smallish feet are a big plus.
F. Hormones
While clearly not for some (many?) candidates, hormones are the
piece de resistance of femming as they significantly and in most
cases permanently enhance the subject's appearance. Technical
information on the web abounds. Many, many gurls safely and
effectively pursue a course of self- (or wife) administered course
of medication following published guidelines. There are health
risks however and counsel of a suitably trained physician is the
most prudent course.
Increase in hip size, reduced or eliminated shaving of body hair,
muscle mass reduction (even to the point of a more slender neck),
voice pitch alteration and softer skin are all typically present
to one degree or another. It should be noted that HRT
effectiveness tends to diminish with age with the last fully
effective results in the early twenties and diminishing
thereafter. (Another reason to start them young, although some
older gurls have had most pleasing results.) Development of
breasts can vary widely in degree and appears to have some
relationship to hereditary (genetic) factors. It was noted earlier
that the bra was the significant garment acquisition; the same can
be said of breasts, in the physical sense, as they are the overt
visible physical symbol of femininity. One should also note that
hormones have a tendency to cause the subject to gain weight so
slimming the gurl down first, if necessary, seems wise.
Amply breasted women will attest to the fact that it's the first
thing (in many cases the only thing) men look at. If attracting
men is likened to fishing, tits are the lure that, simply taken
out of the tackle box, gets the fish to literally jump into the
boat. Employment in "boy mode" doesn't preclude their use to a
certainty as most gurls usually have reasonably modest
development, something probably on the order of an A to small B
cup. The employment situation and business clothing worn are the
determining factors. Tits certainly enhance the gurl's femme self
image and, as many wives cheerfully report, it's fun to watch them
grow!
Alas, as with any beneficial result, there can be undesirable
ancillary consequences. Some gurls can experience mood swings
(some relatively severe) that can make them literally a bitch to
live with. Happily these symptoms are of reasonably short
duration, feminine puberty typically lasting less no more than
five years and the emotional portion much less than that. Some
physical discomfort (tender breasts and nipples) is typically
present and wives would do well to recall their own experiences
with puberty. Reduction of libido can also result and many wives
are only too happy to see that, as cuckolding the gurl becomes
easier for example.
With decreased libido however, bitching the gurl becomes tougher
so bitching is recommended BEFORE commencement of hormone therapy
for wives so inclined. Clearly this is not a concern for wives who
want celibate gurls. Once physical evidence of hormone therapy is
obvious (particularly if the subject has been THOROUGHLY bitched)
the wife can expect few, if any instances of resistance of the
"I'm a man!" variety. (As an aside, once the TGurl begins "pop"
something up top, a two-piece swimsuit is an ideal gift/treat.
Whenever in the process they are acquired, few things compare in
effectiveness to "bikini tan lines" in heightening feminine
self-image and e.g. reducing showering at the golf club.)
This is an excellent opportunity to introduce a condition that
should have most probably been done sooner (mea culpa!). There is
in the TG lifestyle a kind of perceived social hierarchy based on
feminine appearance. The more feminine the subjects appearance in
all respects the more highly regarded her perception, both self
and by others.
It may seem strange that a societal subset that envisions itself
unduly discriminated against because of appearance and/or
mannerism would contain members who, if only inwardly, regard
themselves as superior to "less gifted" members of the peer group.
This is precisely the type of self-contradictory (hypocritical?)
view it may be remembered that is present in members of the
"traditionally gay" community who find the presence of TGurls less
than acceptable. C'est la vie or human nature, as one will. Very
thorough femming and very feminine appearance are therefore in the
gurl's best interest both for her self-esteem and her relationship
with the Tcommunity. If a job is worth doing it's worth doing
well.
The reader is thanked for her attention thus far. If she has
indeed gotten this far a high level of interest must be assumed.
The author will not try her patience (nor test her stamina!)
indefinitely. The reader will recall being advised that Part II
was NOT presented in any order of significance; the sections
remaining are no less important than those completed.
The authority is at a loss for a pithy quotation.
End of Installment #4
(Part II. To be continued followed by the FAQ)
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