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Title: Femme Your Hubby - FAQ #4
Author: A. K. Remenko
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Preface to FAQ #4: FM's html conversion software evidently doesn't
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To the mail:
22. I discovered my gurl was a gurl by accident about 2 years ago.
It didn't bother me all that much at first although I didn't let
her know that. I pretended to be a little put out about it and I
guess you could say acted the part of the tolerant wife. Over the
last year or so I've been helping her more and more and she's
become very pretty when she wants to be. She insisted from the
first that she had no interest in men; I've always had my doubts
but kept that to myself. I've become more and more excited by the
though of watching her suck. I'm not so sure I want her to do the
other. Since I never really femmed her, I don't think I have the
kind of control you talk about in your paper. How can I see if
she's interested and what can I do in any event to make it happen?
Answer: The author must admit this is the first time (!!!) that
the author has been presented with this situation. The writer's
grasp of the material in the paper was excellent because she
immediately understood the control aspect to be all-important. The
author suggests that as a first step the writer make a determined
effort to obtain approximations of her gurl's offset, right drift
and A point. This will be work and time consuming but it's the
author's belief that it is a prudent step. The writer knows where
she wants to go she just doesn't know at what position she's
starting.
Once those values are established, the writer will be in a better
position to determine how much control she needs to acquire or if
indeed the change is even possible in the reasonably near term.
The writer did retain some control by dint of concealing her
initial true reaction. This leaves open the possibility of some
TANSTAAFL work. The writer is hereby praised for having the good
sense not to overreact one way or the other upon finding out her
gurl was indeed a gurl. (An excellent lesson for ALL wives here
and an excellent letter!)
23. My gurl is pretty much finished; only ear piercing and getting
her cherry popped remain to be done. She sucked her first one
about four months ago (another TGurl) and I've kept her at that
pretty steadily since switching her successfully to guys not long
after. I am surprised that I'm getting more resistance about the
ear piercing than I did about starting to suck or even swallow for
that matter. I think she's ready for bitching as I've been using
toys on her and she loves that. She's awfully enthusiastic about
sucking now though. How can I be SURE she's ready to be bitched?
Also for her first time I want her to get it doggy style and I
want HER to sort of back up onto the guy's cock, sort of "bitching
herself" if you know what I mean. Is this OK?
Answer: This letter was selected for the FAQ because it
illustrates several principles extremely well. The writer has
clearly done a magnificent job and has a gift for this work, the
"magic touch" if one will. The writer clearly understands that
timing of the big step is all-important. First things first
however, the ear piercing resistance is a male totem example.
Readers will recall that some gurls even though "pretty much
finished" cling to that one item symbolic to them of their male
status (more correctly FORMER male status). It's the author's
guess that the gurl will be bitched BEFORE she acquiesces to the
ear piercing, bitching being the tangible evidence of surrender of
her manhood. Even then it is likely that the best method would be
to have her get ONE ear pierced first (retaining briefly a male
totem to help her with acclimation to bitching) followed some time
later by having the other ear done. A good way to prep her for the
second ear is to buy a pair or two of earrings so that, in the
gurl's perception, piercing of the second ear only makes good
sense. (As an aside, this is also good technique for gurls who
already have one ear pierced even before the process is begun.)
The writer has thoroughly prepared the ground, the gurl already
accepting cock willingly and being "pussy trained". One can never
be absolutely certain the gurl is ready but it certainly wouldn't
hurt to start giving her hints as to what the wife expects from
her. This could be accomplished most easily during a pussy
training episode, the wife saying something like "I think you're
ready for the real thing" and etc. The writer's desire relative to
the gurl backing up onto the cock is excellent symbolic technique
in that it forces the gurl, via overt action on her part, to admit
and accept her new status. Hats off to the writer for this little
gem. The author would caution however that the gentleman doing the
work should still have the gurl by the hips with his hands and be
prepared to complete the act if the gurl hesitates or balks. To
the extent possible she should be allowed to "do herself" but in
no event should she be allowed to circumvent the process of her
own volition.
24. I guess I should give you a little background. I knew my gurl
was a gurl before we lived together (we're not married, together
about 2 years). I have no feeling about him cross-dressing one way
or the other. I am bi and told my boyfriend this up-front; he was
OK with it, but he's never said anything about bi curiosity on his
part. I've gone out with him a few times and met some of the
TGurls he hangs around with and they're pretty "loose" if you know
what I mean. Over the last six months or so I've been getting
clues that he really wants to try it with a guy. Also, I know for
a fact that he was in a car with some people and another TGurl was
giving a guy a BJ and my boyfriend (he was in gurl mode at the
time) was watching. The TGurl giving the BJ offered the cock to my
boyfriend but he declined. A few weeks ago he gave me your article
to read; my reaction was pretty much "so what".
I told him it was OK with me if he wanted to try guys. Eventually
(and I had to drag it out of him) he said, "I want YOU to MAKE me
do it." (Emphasis/caps are the author's.) I guess I don't get it.
If he wants to and I told him it was OK, why wouldn't he just do
it? It doesn't do a thing for me and I suppose I could, but if I
do is he going to want me to do this all the time? I sure don't
want my participation to be a regular or expected thing.
Answer: Unfortunately TGurls are burdened with a lot of guilt
(much of it self-imposed) about a lot of things. Your "forcing"
her to take this step removes much of that guilt. It may be why
she passed on a good opportunity; you weren't there. You didn't
supply background on your gurl's history; if she was femmed by
another woman you may be being co-opted into becoming a surrogate
for the woman who femmed her and evidently did not complete the
process (sorry if bringing up past relationships is troubling).
(Note: There is little the author finds more offensive than
slovenly or incomplete work. If indeed there WAS another woman who
started the task and left it unfinished she has done not only the
writer, but the whole lifestyle population as well an injustice.)
Gurls in this posture are unlikely to act without the wife's help.
As to whether or not the wife (in this case SO, "significant
other") ALLOWS this to become a habit, is pretty much up to the
wife within certain constraints. The gurl must be trained to
understand that this won't be the practice in perpetuity if that
is in fact the wife's desire. Some gurls are very submissive and
crave constant reinforcement of their submissive status; the wife
(or other dominant figure) is therefore a NECESSARY part of the
action in order to meet the gurls perceived needs. In this case
it's not that the gurl "expects" the wife's involvement, she
REQUIRES it, albeit involuntarily. This latter situation is a
tough nut to crack. (Readers should note the writer's consistent
use of male pronouns when referring to the gurl.)
(Note: The TGurl who offered this writer's subject the cock showed
the good manners and camaraderie endemic to the TG sisterhood. In
addition, this gurl clearly demonstrated that in HER opinion the
subject was ready as TGurls are usually careful to a fault to not
offend a sister by so doing. The statement that the writer knew as
fact that this episode occurred means that one of the other gurls
most likely told the wife, quite probably at the request of the
subject. These elements when coupled with the subject giving the
wife FYH to read, would lead one to believe the subject is ready
but needs a "push" to begin.)
25. My gurl has been one for a long time. She told me she started
in her early teens. I didn't find out until after we were married,
but I think I've been pretty good about supporting her, although I
participate infrequently. In the last year or so a number of her
gurlfriends have started on hormones, including two I think who
are also married. She's been asking me more and more frequently of
late if she could start hormones too. Until recently the subject
never came up. She's in her mid-thirties and we've been married
more than ten years and I've known about her "hobby" for about
eight years. I don't want her to have relations with men and I
honestly believe she does not and never has. I really don't know
how to take this or what to do about it. Any thoughts?
Answer: The author described the nature of the oft encountered
"TGurl hierarchy" in the paper proper and this may well be a case
of perceived peer pressure, i.e. "keeping up with the Joneses",
motivating the desire. This is especially true because the desire
has manifested itself so recently and in conjunction with similar
actions by others. The best the author can do is to say that it is
serious business and that the author HIGHLY recommends qualified,
professional counseling for both parties, either jointly or
severally.
26. I'm a male thirty-six years old, five foot ten-and-a-half and
about 160 pounds, though I could stand to lose a little weight
(slight build and I've got "love handles"). I've been married
about six years; it's the second marriage for both of us. I have
been completely cuckolded for the last four years. The only sex I
have now is masturbating while watching my wife with her
boyfriends if they permit it. She is strictly into black guys now,
which is OK with me as they are very tolerant of me watching and
taking photos, something her white boyfriends weren't too keen on.
When she's out on dates or gone for the weekend, I sometimes
masturbate while looking at the pictures. (She went away for a
weekend and came home with tattoos, one above her pussy and the
other in the small of her back that both say, "Black cock only".)
A good friend of hers also has the same sort of relationship with
her hubby. (They live near us and sometimes the two women party
together with their boyfriends.) The other husband is a TGurl but
I am not. He gave me a copy of your paper and told me I should try
it because he thinks I'd enjoy everything a lot more. I never
cross-dressed before nor have I ever had a strong interest in it.
However, while I still enjoy watching my wife with men, after four
years I'm starting to think something different might be
interesting. I asked my wife if it was OK if I tried it and she
said I could do whatever I want as long as I understood that
whatever I did, under no circumstances would I be having sex with
her again, ever. What are the chances I'll really get "into" being
a TGurl? Since I never exhibited any predisposition to it does
that mean it's going to be harder or take longer or maybe just not
work? I've never even sucked a cock before, but the other husband
says that's the best part of being a TGurl. My wife's friend's
husband seems to really enjoy it and given our similar situations
I'm tempted to try it. Any insight you could provide would be most
appreciated.
Answer: This is another first for the author. Your acceptance of
your wife's clear preference and your willingness to at least
consider new things are both much to be admired. This would be the
process "in reverse" of the usual situation. Many say that TGurls
are "born and not made" (predisposition wise) but the author, as
should be clear, doesn't agree with that sentiment totally. Your
letter did not provide certain essential information. Would you
like your wife to help you femme? Would she be willing to help
you? The author's guess is that you'll be pretty much on your own
given the one of her response to your query. However having an
experienced Tsister around with a similar background should help a
lot. The degree of success and enjoyment you derive from the
change will be commensurate with your desire to do it and your
commitment to the task. A "ho-hum" attitude and approach are
unlikely to yield good results in the absence of a female driving
the process forward. Having said all that however, the bottom line
is you won't know until you try. You certainly have much less to
lose than a "closet gurl" whose wife is unaware of her interest
and seem to be reasonably blessed physically. If you follow the
guidelines in the paper and approach the task with a positive mind
set, your chances will be much improved. Good luck!
27. My gurl took to it like a duck to water. Pretty, loves to suck
cocks and good at it from what I hear. The deal is she's getting
awfully squeamish all of a sudden about learning to fuck like a
gurl. I'm getting all kinds of excuses not the least of which is
she's afraid it'll hurt. I find this hilarious because she used to
enjoy looking at dirty pictures of petite women getting done in
the backside by really hung guys. She loves it when I do her with
a strap-on and she's got plenty of toys she uses, some being
pretty large. How can I get her "over the hump" so to speak?
Answer: This is a pretty common scenario. Something is probably
compelling her to hang on to the last vestige of her
self-perceived masculinity. It might be work related, or family or
friends or even you. It really doesn't matter what it is, she's
just unwilling right now to "give it up" for guys that way, as
that will force her to accept her truly femmed status. Gurls
understand subconsciously, if not consciously, that once they
start letting men fuck them they're not going to quit; some get
rather nostalgic about their former status as "men" and the
realistic prospect of ever returning to that status is history
once they start opening their thighs for guys. It's just a case of
right time, right place, and right guy. It's up to you to arrange
it. You didn't mention whether or not you date, but a double date
where she gets to see your guy doing you often works. TGurls love
their wives and often emulate them for that reason, role models as
it were. Do a little research and come up with a plan.
28. My gurl was a gurl for quite some time before we married. I
knew about it up-front and never had a problem with it. I told her
I understood if she was attracted to guys (I am bi). She denied
she was and insisted she was "100% heterosexual" (I kind of
chuckled when I read your paper and found that). Any way, she's
taking cock now and evidently really enjoying it. I'm not really
angry but I am curious as to why she denied it for so long
especially since I told her it was OK. What was the point of her
BS'ing me about the guy thing? (By the way, I think she looks
prettier somehow when she's got a stiff one in her mouth.)
Answer: Strange as it sounds she probably wasn't lying to you. She
undoubtedly BELIEVED she had no interest in men. You didn't
mention how long it took her but the author has seen everything
from months to decades so nothing would be a surprise here. Right
drift works, it's only a matter of time. As to your comment about
her looking prettier when sucking, the author has heard the same
observation from a number of sources. TGurls just seem to radiate
a kind of glow when "in service" that speaks of happiness and
contentment.
29. I am a real girl, 20 years old and in college. I think TGurls
are WAY cool. One of the guys I know went to a Halloween party as
a gurl and he looked so HOT I couldn't believe it. Everyone was
generally pretty cool about it, but some of the guys gave him a
hard time, calling him names and stuff like that; that really got
me mad. If I were a guy I would have been after him like crazy.
What I don't get is why some people are so mean to TGurls? It's
not like their hurting anybody. I stuck up for her and got the
guys who were doing it to stop.
Answer: Good for you! Generally women who aren't thrilled by the
TGurl thing are polite at least. Guys are a different story. Some
react with hostility because they find the whole concept
threatening to them personally with some doing it to mask the fact
that they ARE attracted to TGurls. It's the worst when they're in
a group as the "peer image" phenomenon kicks in. In addition, some
may be TGurls themselves and giving TGurls a hard time is a
defensive measure calculated to protect them from "suspicion".
Paranoia about discovery is not uncommon in the lifestyle.
End of FAQ #4
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