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Title: Femme Your Hubby FAQ #7
Preface to FAQ #7: The author TRIES to refrain from reading
reviews of the author's published material. (Reviewers here tend
to include in reviews what THEY would like to see in terms of
story/article development, which may subconsciously bias the
author. The author writes what the author writes and reviewers
are free to praise or condemn as they see fit.) However,
curiosity being what it is the author occasionally slips up
(read "weak"). In this case, all for the best as two posts to
the review area for FAQ #6 are most noteworthy and will be
addressed here. (As an aside, the author wishes to thank ALL
those who took the time to post reviews, INCLUDING those that
were less than flattering; the latter pale in comparison to some
of the vitriolic email the author has received. The hallmark of
serious research is that it must stand the test of criticism of
any stripe. The author will never engage in responding to
criticism per se as that rarely accomplishes anything. The two
examples here are rather more on the order of comments and
questions that advance the topic. Also, it IS best if questions
are sent to [email protected] so we don't impose on the
kind folks at FM re: bandwidth consumption and storage.)
Further to this preface, the author is receiving questions that
the author believes have been adequately covered in either the
manual or previous FAQ sections. Readers are requested (read
"strongly encouraged") to read these sources BEFORE firing off
a question to the email box. The acronym common in software
support circles "RTFM" (read the f****** manual) would seem to
apply here as well. Thanks in advance.
The mail is starting to taper off a bit as is to be expected
since many readers are finding the information they seek in
either the manual or the FAQ sections. As a practical matter the
author believes that sufficient FAQ material will have been
gathered by the end of the year (31 December 2002) to enable the
last FAQ to be posted shortly thereafter and the article closed.
After that date questions may be sent to the author and if
deemed deserving of a reply (i.e. covering new ground) they will
be answered by email. Another resource that can be utilized is
the Yahoo Group founded by the author titled (surprise,
surprise) Femme Your Hubby.
Lastly, despite having previously indicated the author would not
under any circumstance(s) do so, the author has received another
spate of requests for the author's personal
participation/assistance in the femming of reader's hubbies. The
author certainly finds these appeals flattering but must demur
for reasons cited earlier. (Read "It ain't gonna happen.")
And now the mail folks!
45. (Read FAQ #6 item 38. as this item continues reader
Marcie's situation)
Reader Marcie's question in the review section of FAQ # 6 is
reproduced here (with a few minor edits):
Thank you for answering my email. The info you gave in FAQ#1
(I.e. item 38. FAQ #6 - author) of this installment will be
invaluable. You are right. Not being the wife or significant
other is hindering my efforts. What's hindering my efforts more
is that now my gurl has started dating a girl (!!! author). He's
been dating her a month now. He told me it's his first
girlfriend in two years. She told me that she doesn't think that
her new girlfriend would be cool with his gurl tendencies even
though she's suppressing them. Of course I'm telling this gurl
to be honest with his new girlfriend. I haven't given up. I just
don't know where to go from here. I am trying to get her to take
an interest in me. While at work I have taken to finding excuses
to brush up against her and putting my hands on her shoulders
and back and lightly rubbing them. These efforts have caused a
little growth in her trousers. He hasn't acted on my obvious
clues that it's okay to touch me in the same ways. My question
now is what else can I do? Where do I go from here? I'm posting
my question here to get other ideas from the readers. I hope FM
doesn't mind. Wouldn't mind a response from you either AK.
Should I still get her the gifts you suggested or would that be
pushing the envelope and distance her from me. Hope to hear from
you.
Answer: The author wasn't thrilled by your chances given the
particulars disclosed in your first communication. Sad to say,
things are even worse now. Let's examine the facts: 1. A
"recovering TGurl" with stupendous will power and 2. Her first
GG type girlfriend in TWO years. Either would be tough; in
combination they present difficulty of the greatest magnitude.
The new GG girlfriend appeals strongly to the subject's male
persona and additionally provides a powerful tool to the gurl to
further resist femming (fear of loss of a relationship as the
new girlfriend apparently doesn't know). In addition (and the
author does not mean to be unkind here) strange as it may seem,
your "coming on" to the gurl was probably the worst thing you
could have done. YOU are a GG and all the suggestive overtures
did was reinforce in the gurl's mind that women find her
attractive in boy mode!! (If you look down you can see the
bullet hole in your shoe. ) The fact that a customary
male/female relationship surfaces after a two-year break (the
author was therefore correct in initially assuming there was no
wife/SO present) means this gurl is going to bend every effort
to NOT jeopardize it in ANY way. (Proof here is that while she
was aroused by your approach, she did not succumb to
temptation.) ANY overt move now is likely to produce an
extremely adverse reaction. DO NOT purchase any femme items or
do anything in an attempt to advance the process. The only
prudent course is to observe what happens and await further
developments. If anyone is going to femme this gurl under the
present circumstances it's the new GG girlfriend. If the
relationship sours of its own accord (particularly if the new
girlfriend "dumps" the subject) you may be presented with a more
favorable climate. Doing anything on your own to torpedo the
relationship will earn you the everlasting enmity of the
subject.
46. With thanks to reviewer (and accomplished author whose work
also appears in this archive) Princess Pervette, her posting to
the review area of FYH FAQ #6 is reproduced here:
In Part 1 (Femme Your Hubby Installment #1 author) you mention
the tremendous significance of the first bra. I just saw this
striking confirmation on the Web:
"You don't mention whether you keep him in a bra. That was a
real turning point in our relationship. Before he was Tony,
wearing panties etc; after the first bra he became Toni. It was
a very important step in terms of control. He very seriously did
not want to wear it. One thing is to be a man in panties -- but
he felt the bra took him away from his gender."
Answer: This would appear to be an excerpt from an online chat
room or "instant message". Would that the author had seen this
before Installment #1 was published as it states the case
perfectly and the author would have been pleased to include it.
It is reproduced here NOT simply because it reinforces the
author's thesis. (The author consciously avoids
self-aggrandizing material and tries to abstain from
self-administered back patting.) Rather it presents beautifully
the profound PSYCHOLOGICAL impact of the bra and this wife's
grasp of the critical aspect of CONTROL it provides. The author
has received mail from many wives discussing the relative
advantages of different styles, sizes, colors and etc. of bras
(some taking the author severely to task for the statement in
Installment #1 that style and etc. didn't really matter much)
based on their experience but such discussions beg the key
issue. This wife KNEW that getting her gurl in a bra was a
critical early step and she clearly accomplished it, in spite of
resistance! The decisive evidence is that "Tony" became "Toni"
in short order and a significant progressive step had taken
place. The gurl viewed HERSELF as femme and it's the author's
guess that in consequence, subsequent steps met with less
resistance. This is also further evidence (as if we really
needed any) that there are some really talented wives out there
AND that resistance is essentially futile if the process is
properly managed. Thanks Pervy.
46. My wife is helping me femme and I'm just about to the point
where I feel comfortable enough with my appearance to start
going out. I'm actually less nervous about going out than I
thought I would be. I've been chatting online with another gurl
who lives near me (who has been going out for some time) and
she's been very helpful and reassuring. I've been working
seriously toward going out for approximately six months.
Appearance wise I've made pretty good progress but something
else is happening that I never expected.
When the subject of me going out as a gurl came up my wife
teased me saying since I looked so good the guys were going to
be hitting on me. I always considered myself straight so I
pooh-poohed the idea and we laughed about it. She still teases
me about it on occasion; in the last three months or so it has
been on my mind more and more. I'm not getting paranoid or
anything; on the contrary, despite my best efforts, the idea is
getting more intriguing all the time. I found pics (explicit) on
the web of TGurls with guys and have started to look for them
regularly. Consciously at least I don't want to do this but I'm
finding it irresistible. In addition, when I'm dressed I find
myself thinking about guys, and to put it bluntly their cocks,
more and more. The pics get me turned on and so do my thoughts.
I also bought some toys and have (blush) fallen in love with my
dildo. My wife doesn't know about the toys but I fear she's
going to figure something is up because we're not having sex as
often as we used to. She hasn't mentioned anything about our
decreasing frequency and there is nothing in her demeanor that
indicates she feels anything is wrong.
I want to share how I feel with her but am very uneasy about
doing so. I just don't know how she's going to react. One
thought is that if she doesn't want me doing guys my telling her
may cause her to prevent it. That would be OK in a way I guess
because my initial thoughts along those lines were I'd never do
it anyway. On the other hand it may instead cause her to stop
helping me femme and I don't think I could handle that; I now
really like being a gurl. This is all very confusing and at the
same time exciting. Any advice you would be kind enough to
provide would be deeply appreciated.
Answer: It's the author's guess that you have a fairly high rate
of right drift as what you are experiencing typically manifests
itself after a gurl has started going out. There was much unsaid
in your letter that has a larger bearing on your situation. I.e.
you said you're wife was "helping" you femme. Does this mean she
is femming you or were you a TGurl already and receiving
"technical support" from your wife? If she is femming you and
would like to see you dating men she probably has noticed the
decline in sexual activity and has a pretty good idea of why it
is occurring. Wives are very perceptive about such things. The
fact that she (playfully?) teases you about getting hit on by
guys MAY be evidence that the idea is not all that repellant to
her. Fantasy is one thing and reality another. Be advised that
once you start taking cock as a gurl you're not going to quit
irrespective of the wife's preference. The author's considered
advice is that you do nothing until you start going out. If
possible have her go out with you and study her reactions when
men approach you as her reaction(s) may provide a clue to her
disposition. Clearly any overt reaction on her part, either
encouraging or discouraging you, should be a very good
indicator. You're going to have to look or query for more subtle
reactions. Good luck!
47. My boyfriend and I are both in our 20's. He is a lifelong CD
(he told me from day one) and I think that's great; I think
TGurls are really cool. He dresses real sexy and looks very hot.
However I have recently discovered he has started taking
hormones and he never said a word to me about it. I noticed some
"changes" and did a little snooping and found his hormone stash.
I am really surprised and more than a little disappointed that
he didn't discuss this with me beforehand or even tell me he
decided to do it. He looks very good as a girl and I have seen
what hormones can do but this is a little more than I bargained
for as I'm not sure where this is headed. I'm also not sure how
I'm going to react if he really develops. It's not to the point
where I feel as if I should break up with him over this
immediately but I don't feel I can just sit here and say nothing
about it. Any thoughts you'd care to share on how best to deal
with this?
Answer: The use of hormones by TGurls has increased markedly in
the last few years. Many are not interested in a "sex change"
but are interested in enhancing their femme appearance. Since
she was very up-front with you about dressing (a pleasant change
of pace for the author) the fact that she didn't consult you on
this issue is of interest. Clearly one reason to NOT tell you is
she fears an adverse reaction and may be trying to present you
with a fait accompli in the hope you'll just "go along". You
made no mention in your letter that the subject has surfaced
previously so the author must presume this came "out of the
blue". Although it is possible that she gave you a few signals,
albeit veiled, and they passed unnoticed. She will be more or
less forced to acknowledge her action as her development
proceeds. If physical signs exist now (you didn't elaborate on
the state of the changes you mentioned) that would be in a
matter of months at most and possibly weeks. The author has
known wives who were very apprehensive about this but later
admitted they loved their gurl's breasts and etc. when all was
said and done. This is by no means a universal reaction however.
As a GG you know the magnetic effect boobs have on guys and it
may be that you have concerns (subconsciously?) that your gurl
has or will develop an interest in guys.
The author is not fond of "snooping" but understands that under
certain conditions it's tough to resist. Without a thorough
knowledge of the relationship the author is loathe to make any
specific recommendations other than saying that reacting with
hostility is ill advised. The subject is bound to "pop up"
literally and figuratively before too long; you should use the
time remaining to plan your approach and reflect on your posture
toward this development in order to be able to discuss it with
your gurl rationally.
48. Note: The author made a somewhat flippant response to item
44 in FAQ #6 (the author makes no pretense of being perfect) and
a more compassionate, and obviously more educated reader, wrote
the author upbraiding the author (gently and politely in the
author's view) for the author's misstep. This reader's email is
reproduced here verbatim (minor edits for typos and consistency
of presentation and without attribution or response) as a
community service. Clearly this sincere reader has the welfare
of others at heart. The author thanks the reader for the
contribution. The wife who submitted the question has been
advised via email that the following information has been
published here:
Dear AK:
Question #44 (Item 44, FYH FAQ #6 author) seems like a serious
question and deserves a serious answer. You might want to
consider the possibility that our TGurl has Dissociative
Identity Disorder formerly known as Multiple Personality
Disorder. Tobacco is an addiction and addicts 80% of the people
who take it up. If the addiction is only for the en femme
personality, it is an indicator that the en femme personality is
dissociated from the male personality. It is common for people
with DID to have one personality who is alcoholic or addicted
and others not. (He drinks and she gets the hangover and doesn't
know why. This is funny but sad and frustrating for someone who
has to live with such a condition). First of all, check out some
serious DID sites such as Sidran Foundation and International
Society for the Study of Dissociation and start educating
yourself on this issue. Also check out some of the stories on
Dark Personalities website. Secondly, get back to the woman you
are counseling (done - author) and ask her if her TGurl has
memory lapses and difficulty remembering what she did en femme.
It's the memory lapses that are the key to DID. Other
indications include an inability to remember much of one's
childhood and a history of childhood abuse and episodes of child
behavior. The wish to be treated like a child can be an
indicator that a child alter exists and wants to come out (child
alters exist in almost all DID people). If the woman you are
counseling responds affirmatively to these questions (and only
one affirmative is an indication of DID, since DID is a
condition that people stay even more in the closet about than
transsexuality; they try to hide it and deny it even to
themselves) then strongly encourage her to find a clinician who
treats DID. ISSD can be helpful in finding a DID clinician in
her locality -- if that is the problem and they are prepared to
deal with it. Contact me if I can be of further assistance. With
what you are trying to do, even if this person is not multiple,
eventually you will encounter multiples, so start educating
yourself and know what you're dealing with.
All the best,
Signed
Author's Note: The writer signed the contribution but did not
give the author specific permission to disclose the writer's
identity, nor did the writer request that it be concealed.
Lacking specific permission to disclose it, the author has
elected to omit the writer's identity.
49. I see two spellings of TS frequently. Which is correct,
"transexual" or "transsexual"?
Answer: Both forms are considered acceptable.
50. How many TGurls does it take to screw in a light bulb?
Answer: The author has seen some very petite TGurls but none so
small as to be able to fit even ONE such diminutive TGurl in a
light bulb, much less a paramour to boot. Is this a trick
question?
End of FAQ #7
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